Don’t Paralyze Your Children!

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How much do your parents earn? Have they been able to provide you a luxurious life? Are they saving a lot of money for your future? That’s what a typical loving parent does. No matter how hard the life of a parent is, there is a constant struggle to make your life soothing.

How do you judge this? Is this the right procedure? Rich parents obviously provide luxurious life to their children. They have so much property for their children that the children do not have to do a regular job to earn money.

 

Lets look into a typical middle class or poor family. The life of a poor family is harsh. The parents make little money that will provide them only two times food and expenses of their children. No matter how harsh the life is, they still manage to save little money cutting their basic expenses to save it for a better future of at least their children. The father might refuse to buy a motor bike for himself and instead walk to office. The mother might refuse to wear fancy clothes to parties and sit in home instead. They are not just cutting their basic needs but they are cutting their valuable happiness for their children.

The child grows up. S/he receives the finest education, or at least the education as per the capacity of the parents. They demand motor bikes, mobile phones, good clothes, and their parents buy it to them by cutting more of their basic needs to see happiness of their children. There is barely a struggle in the life of the children, as compared to the parents.

Giving birth/adopting & rearing a child is the biggest responsibility of parent/s. You should bear a child only once you are ready. You are not supposed to provide the finest education and luxurious goods all the time. All you need to do is educate them and teach them to become a responsible human being themselves. If you are a child, you need to be thankful to receive a life and years of care from your parents, and you should not ask anything else besides that.

If you are any year older than 18, doing nothing and feeding on your father’s money, and being proud of the money, you are a paralyzed child. Do you have a reputed lifestyle because of your popular or rich parents that has not allowed you to go out and find a proper job?

If it is so, let me remind you that 15-year old Sasha Obama, daughter of Barack Obama worked in a restaurant in her summer holidays to earn money. Even the elder daughter Malia Obama worked as an Intern in the film sets. Are not they the daughters of one of the most powerful parents in the world?

Do you know Jackie Chan has $350 million, which he is planning to donate to the charity instead of keeping it for his son Jaycee?

If you are above 18, feeding on your parents’ money, being a spoiled brat of your somehow-rich-or-popular parents, you might find Jackie Chan & Barack Obama being unfair to their children, right?

What these parents have learned in their life is something that every parent should learn. You are supposed to provide your children all the skills that you could not receive; but you are not supposed to provide them the materialistic or luxurious life or save a lot of money for them. They are supposed to earn it themselves.

Those who have had a rough life know the satisfaction of every little reward after a hard struggle. This is the meaning of life. You are not supposed to just come to this planet, spend entire money that has been already available from your parents, and die.

If you are doing this, at one point, you will realize that you have never found happiness. Money is something, but it is not everything. Happiness comes from inner peace. Inner peace comes from satisfaction. Satisfaction never comes from money. It comes from hard work, struggles, and helping another one in need.

Let your children learn how to make their own living. Let them be independent. What you shower your children today with your own money & time, they should be able to shower you same or more with their own money and time. Only those who understand this will let their children go out of the comfort zones and work for real, instead of feeding it to their mouth forever.

Don’t overindulge your children by providing them every penny you wished you had while you were young. Instead, provide them every skill that you wished you had learnt. Every life has a purpose, don’t snatch it from your kids.

Aleena Rayamajhi
6/19/2019